While other moms carried their kids' backpacks, I handed mine a wrench. It taught her independence.

Courtesy of the author I gave my kids independence early, even when it felt uncomfortable. Becoming a single parent made independence a necessity. It helped my daughters grow into confident, capable young adults. It was Christmas morning, and my 9-year-old daughter was thrilled to open up our new backyard fire pit. She asked me if we could roast marshmallows and make S'mores that same night. "Sure," I responded. "If you can put the firepit together." I knew she could do it, and I was worn o...